Well I think anyone in a longterm committed relationship is more concerned about pleasing their partner then any of the other options.. but I think when it’s new most people are more worried about how they look to the other person and if they sound funny or making funny faces. I know it’s kinda shallow but we all wanna look and sound like the best.. :)

while some people re all out to please them selves i am more of pleasing my partner no matter how long we ave been together so basically the notin during sex is pleasure either u re taking it giving it or sharing it cos sex is every one pleasure moments……..

One thing I do insist on is being able to see the person I am with. Yes, I understand the bit about turning out the lights. But, what is the use of envisioning your partner for X amount of time, using all sorts of imaginative thoughts, guessing and wondering only to not be able to find out the answer to one of the biggest questions you had in the first place. Dim the lights, don’t turn them off. You are missing so much…especially in the eyes. Even during sex the eyes tell the whole story.

There is so much more to sex than the simple act. Touching, listening and seeing are very important. Like anything else, composure is always the key. Even in the “Hottest” of moments pay attention and get all there is. Sex really is a 3D event. Visit all the levels and get the most from it.